The downside to reaching this age is that many view it as a deadline, that their time is up. That they are no longer allowed to do certain things but are expected to do other things -- such as getting married and having children, or becoming a boss and having a successful career.
As a woman, what runs through your head when you see the number 30? How do you view women who are 30 years old, and more importantly, what are your views of yourself when you reach 30? Do you have certain expectations of and for yourself upon reaching the age? Do you feel that the world has certain expectations of you?
For many women, turning the big 3-0 is a major turning point in their lives. It is a milestone. It signifies the beginning of an era when a woman has grown to become a better version of herself -- moving onwards with life with a clearer idea of who she is and where she wants to go.
However, the downside to reaching this age is that many view it as a deadline, that their time is up. That they are no longer allowed to do certain things but are expected to do other things -- such as getting married and having children, or becoming a boss and having a successful career.
Most women cannot help but feel this way, especially when society is telling them or is expecting them to fulfill certain molds of what a woman should be when she reaches a certain age. And it also doesn’t help them when they see their peers living the lives that they do want or should have. The exposure to these very highly idealized representations of what a 30-year-old woman is (or should be) has made women compare themselves to their peers. They somehow view their lives as insignificant compared to other women because they cannot or do not measure up to these ideals.
This is exactly what Marriel, 24, shared; “You have expectations from society about what you’re supposed to be, what you’re supposed to do but yeah, (turning 30) it’s a bit scary...”
“We are in a society where it’s the norm for women who reaches the age of 30 to already be starting a family...our society imposes expectations based on what is the norm of what women should be doing” she adds.
“I do feel pressured all the time; for example, my mom would ask me questions like, why don’t I have a boyfriend yet, when do I plan on getting married, or what career path do I want to take. So, it does pressure me into thinking that I need to accomplish these things but its just leaves me indecisive and terrified.”
However, more and more women are fighting back these perceived notions of what a 30-year-old woman is by proving that they are more than just their age and that they will not be bound by the pressures of society.
As time passes, the beliefs of the past are shattered one by one, proving that women - or people in general - do not have to conform into one specific mold, that they can be whoever they want, however and whenever they want.
“You can be successful now. Success doesn’t just go with age,” shares Shik, 22. “I imagine them (30-year-old women) to be very empowered, very driven, very passionate with what they are doing because they have been through a lot. They have already achieved a lot in life.”
“We’re all moving at our own pace, if you’re on your way, then you’re on your way. You shouldn’t really put certain districts about it or put certain milestones, like, at this age you should be at this one or at that stage of life. I think it’s different for everyone,” contemplates Nadi, 26. “By the age of 30, I would like to earn an MA degree and then maybe right after, get a PhD. Familywise, whatever, whatever happens, it happens. I’m more of a career girl than anything else.”
“Age is just a number. It’s really up to you, no one can really set limitations but you to yourself,” says Russel, a 28-year-old project manager. “It’s more about loving yourself, so, as long as you have the right people who surrounds you especially your family, things could never go wrong.”